* Stop immediately when fatigued
* Nap or rest 3-4 hours even on a good day
* I work a little, rest a little, etc.
* When I become very tired I've learned I need to give into it
* Have a comfortable place to rest outside and enjoy nature
* Avoid stress
* I refuse to argue about things - drains my energy
* Start Xmas shopping in March
* Give other family members more responsibilities
* Learn to build a new life
* Read uplifting, spiritual books/watch funny TV & stories or movies
* Phone others who are ill and try to help them know they're not alone
* Conserve energy for important things (so) as to not to miss out on life
* Humor, humor and more humor
* When making plans always try to take my variable health into consideration
* Sometimes I weigh if the energy spent on an activity or social event is worth the suffering
afterwards
* Remember always that relationships get Top priority when energy is low
* Don't waste energy explaining your condition to skeptics
* Try to have piece of mind so that you can go through life without everyone understanding
* Avoid people who stress me
* Find rewarding things you can do to bolster self image/esteem and sense of control
* Accepting, trusting, loving yourself no matter what
* Find escapes that work for you (movies, books, special friends, etc.)
* Avoid contact with people that have attitudes of "you could get better if you really.."
including your family
* Make lists/ one or two priorities a day. If I do them I feel better and things aren't such a mess
* Try to remember bad days will pass and I will feel better for some (unknown) period of time
* Change my priorities
* Don't waste time worrying about what could have been
* Simplify, lower, limit goals
* Feel the pain rather than take pills or distract myself
* What is, is enough
* Be in the moment...It contains all life
* Ask what is the lesson? What is the purpose?
* Phone networking with PWCs for support
* Allow myself to be good to myself
* Try to involve myself in helping others
* Unload emotionally or physically drained friendships, relationships
* Apply for rental assistance
* Healthy life style, strict diet
* Live with animals
* Optimize use of appliances
* Hire a cleaning lady
* Use stick-ons in purse so each time I open purse I'm reminded of what to do
* Use speaker phone if arms too weak
* If I have left a message for someone to return my call, I leave that person's name circled on
a pad with what I'd called about, near the phone
* I get washed and dressed and go out every day even if just to drive to video store
* Keep a positive attitude
* Pace myself - engage in fun, pleasurable activities as much as possible
* Keep busy by learning new things - correspondence school
* Yoga, sunshine, diet, sleep and no stress
* Take charge - doctors give advice, and I make the decisions
* When spent, use wheelchair to conserve energy
* Evoke good memories, triumphs and laughter
* Use light weight tools and cooking utensils
* Diet, nutrition, relaxation tapes
* Practice optimism (some call this denial)
* Break all tasks into pieces and tackle one only at a time - Drop out of periods of time
(let your self crash)
* Keep a sense of humor
* Let the house be dirty, order a pizza or use freezer dinners
* Don't make a fulfilling life contingent upon being well
* Get groceries delivered
* Write...often in prayer form
* Accept I have an illness that prevents me from being my once energetic self
* Stop feeling guilty for what I can't do, and mentally or verbally praise myself for what I do get
done
* I dream about a cure/treatment
* Do something everyday, ie. dishes one day, dust one day, wash clothes another, etc.
* Exercise
* Find levels of exercise I can tolerate and don't exceed it
* No unnecessary exercise
* Mild exercise - slow swimming
* Don't go beyond the confines of the box your life is in
* Listen to your body
* Get on computer and learn everything I can about my illness
* Don't forget to say your prayers
* Ask for help when you need it
* Say "No"
* Be smart, if not smarter than your doctor
* Try not to compare yourself to healthy people
* Use a scooter, a (disabled) parking permit, and do a lot by phone
* I always look forward to tomorrow
* I do crossword puzzles to keep my mind reasonably sharp"
* Shop at 6 am - grocer and drug store - no line
* Firmly believe I have value as a human being even though ill
* I'm never without psychotherapy
* Acknowledge my illness, quit pretending
* Support group and giving and receiving help, donations for research
* Develop my own Physical Therapy program to help pain (regular ones make it worse)
* Do the things you have to get done during the time you have more energy even if they aren't
required until later (lunch, dinner, etc.)
* Simplify my life to whatever degree is possible
* Try to keep active just this side of my relapse "electric fence"
* Don't discuss my illness with anyone but my doctor, PWCs, my wife/husband
- former coworkers, friends just don't believe I have an illness - trying to explain CFIDS makes me angry and humiliated
* Have tried to let fo of MOST analretentive, perfectionist tendencies
* Pray to God
* Accept that I'm OK anyway, eve if I can't drive or listen or whatever, I'm OK
* Don't give up all my aspirations and interests from before I developed M.E.
* Saturate my life with beautiful people and things and eliminate critical judgemental people
and their twisted thinking
* Live one day at a time
* Give books, videos, etc. along with info on M.E./CFS to my doctor and any other doctors who
will read - also congress persons, etc.
* Always plan to do fun things even if need to cancel
* Use medications that help without guilt
* For falling barometric pressure, brain fog and fatigue, alcohol improves symptoms - believe it
increases blood flow to brain. (However this cannot be used regularly as it would lead to other
problems)
* Just scream sometimes
* Develop acceptance of my condition, limitations and their affect on my life - not in terms of
defeat, but in terms of a having different way of living and functioning as best I can within
these differences
* Accept the reality of my mostly unpredicable level of function with humor and recognize my
desire that I be other than what I am whenever it pops up (always frustrated)
* I keep informed about FM/CFIDS and consider my options
* At first sign of relapse - rest until symptoms abate
* Self-hypnosis - to beat the pains in joints and muscles
* Find the small joys of life

(From the International Coalition of Long Term CFIDS/M.E. Patients)



Lady Barb has made many of these articles interactive and I hope she has done so with this as many of us have come up with our own coping strategies.

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The Shadow Warrior had bought Lady Barb a tape recorder to help her cope and she thinks this is great because now she doesn't loose all the papers she makes notes on.

Well, now I have one because to shut down your mind at night...you must get rid of the thoughts....I too, was writing them down and loosing the papers, so the tape recorder was a great suggestion.

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