Dear Reader:

I'm so glad you came here to read my letter to you.
If you came here because you wanted to know more about abused women, so you may help them. I'll give you some tips. Tips on helping Abused Women

If you came here because you think you may be an abused women, then please read on.
I know how hard it is to admit to yourself that you've made a mistake. Don't be too hard on yourself, everyone makes mistakes. The great thing about this is that we can always correct them.
I know the anguish you are in.
I know that you think that you love him an although that may be true, it is not the kind of love that anyone should get or give.
True love does not HURT....

A healthy relationship has love going both ways.
If love only went one way, we wouldn't have a relationship.
I know you believe that he loves you, but real love doesn't hurt....it's fantastic and wonderful and will give you the life of your dreams.

You may not want to hear this, that's okay, I understand, but you still must hear it. Sometimes in life, what we want to hear, is not what we need to hear. I know I didn't want to hear all the things they were saying and I'm sure you don't either.

I know that you want to hear "He does love you", "He will change", "Things will get better". But that's not what you need to hear.

What you need to hear is "Things won't get better, but they will get worse", "He won't change, unless he gets professionally help and he can't do that until he chooses to". You can't change him or anything else except yourself. That is the only control you have...you can change you.

You probably have children...do you want this for them as well? Your young sons are in the "Training Process" of becoming abusers as well. Your beautiful little daughter is in "Training to Live With Abuse" and will constantly be in abusive relationships.

Do you want that for them? No, I know you don't but that's the reality of Abuse. It continues, it's a cycle and until someone breaks that cycle, it will continue.

If your children are small, get out and help them now.

If they are older...get out and get immediate help for them and you.

You have to break the cycle - so let it end with you and not 3 more generations down the road.

You can save more women from this life, if you make sure that your sons do not continue this cycle.

You can save your daughter's life by making sure she does not end up dead from the abuse she will go through.

Save your children, please. I know you love them...but love them enough to leave.

You can do it. I did it, but I stayed too long. Let my life be an example to spare you the same fate.

You'll love what's on the other side of abuse. You'll love your new life and you'll love not living in fear.

Please make that call...get out. Nothing matters more than your safety and the safety of your children.

If you need help, email me....I'm always here and I will understand and care.

Love yourself....
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Yours truly,

Lady Care